In walking on a summers day we may sometimes spot in the morning, the sun and the moon are both in the sky and that signals some kind of intergalactic balance. If this is coupled with a earworm of recently read words that tumble over as footsteps take us onwards, it may occur to us, that perhaps this a moment to pay attention to. One might try to capture it, record it and later transcribe that recording, to find a home for the earworm, which in this case was the 5 words ‘find a new reference point’.

what if we had a different frame of reference? what if the the reference point was no longer pain? I’ve found whenever I tell my story I always use reference points of pain, they are like the main markers and everything else orbits around those. I wondered what it would be like to start the story from a different point of view. I wonder if you feel the same? I mean I could list off now the things I have always listed but you already know that they’ll be painful, so let’s take that as a given. you will have your own painful things that you could list and have listed. what if, instead of those being front and centre, we started to talk about our lives from the moments of significance that were not pain? that brought light, that were not triggers but glimmers, and then the pain would not disappear, of course it would not, but it would orbit around the things that are more powerful and have stronger energy to them and hold the pain in orbit somewhere. still there, still manifest in our lives but at an appropriate distance, and sure sometimes these things will come into alignment and we will notice and recognise what has healed or faded perhaps. but it won’t be centre stage anymore. we will have found a new reference point and our lives will orbit differently thereafter.