This year I will turn 40,
or 788,
that is,
if I am the sum of all the years I have been,
that is,
if those years all add up to something more than
what you see
that is,
a collective culmination of
some kind of insight that edges ever closer
to what some may refer to as
wisdom
that is,
if the days spent
are what makes a life.
I have seen 160 seasons come and go
that is,
where I have looked up
to notice their passing,
I still hear my 8 year old self
stamp her feet,
I feel my 2 year old inner child
lean in for closeness,
my teenage self keeps trying to be good…
she remains resolutely misunderstood,
my broken tweenage heart
is still looking to be loved,
the young adult in me
brings me confidence, sometimes,
my mid-life self is urging to
step out of line,
my early mothering me just
looks at me exhausted,
all those hours on my knees
was a kind of love incarnate.
this year I will turn 40
and all things being equal
this will be the middle of the road,
though life spins on a 6 sixpence
I just have
2, 420 more years to go.
What is heard
It’s all very loud out there right now. Perhaps no more than normal but it seems so to me. All those decibels, hertz, vibrations reverberating constantly. So much noise is generated and amplified and some people throw words about, like sound doesn’t matter.
The quieter voice, which says very little but when it does is entirely necessary, is hard to hear. Perhaps that is why when I read the words of this poem they darted straight to my heart, where I am unable to forget them, where I can unwrap them from time to time and listen.
‘And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields’ (Kahil Gibran: On Pain)
I keep hearing about the trees
and how they talk to
one another underground
about how the birds
stitch up the sky
how trees turn golden just before
they let go of everything
and enter the
season of the sticks
how they endure the
harshest of days
but are still prepared to offer
buds and shoots at the first sign of warmth
and when I look up between those branches
the moon looks right back at me
as if she could love me
the Rules of capitalisation do Not Account for what is in the Middle
If you were born a Capital you
could never know life without it
If you were born a Capital
the viewpoint is always above
The unwritten, written rule,
known, accepted, assumed,
Capital is bigger,
ergo better
If you were born a Capital
you have always been first,
Or a been a noun,
a fact, indisputable,
nameable
ergo un-shameable
all look up to you
that is our only view
knowing if we were not smaller you would not be bigger
knowing if we were all made like you
THE WHOLE WORLD WOULD BE SHOUTING
the mid sentence words
the not-a-noun words
adjectives, conjunctions, verbs
do not have your status
your 'where would you be without me-ness'
we are the doing, connecting, living
sentence building, story - making
little,
essential,
words.
everything I look at demands something of me
Everything I look at demands something of me, that is to say, almost always, 51 weeks and weekends of the year. But this past weekend, this 1 weekend of 52, something else happened instead. Sat in a car in remote Scotland with 3 friends from times long gone by, I eased back into the blissful silence, except for it was far from silent. The 3 of them chattering away. I closed my eyes breifly, not exactly listening, just allowing their familiar voices to wash over me and absorb into me. The absolute letting go that is being without a hint of judgement. A whole weekend of pure acceptance. People looking at me and demanding nothing. A landscape looking back at my gaze, and demanding nothing.
I like my friendships best when they are naked exposed laid bare. We take off our necessary masks of mothering caring wifing worker juggler housekeeper keeper of lists. We remove them all abandoned piled by the loch along with our leggings and jumbled jumpers. We slip into swimsuits and one another's hands immerse ourselves in the icy waters and in each others company where we keep each other warm.
She is all
she she is all smooth all rich all deep evokes all long steady strokes all base and bass notes all low vibration all cedar mellows she gives way to melody to step-toe across waters dance like light high, fleeting and bright when melody flits and fades away she she resounds on
She-ever
whomever whoever she-ever that is who I see to the girl I was thank you dear heart you were rarely free to the woman I will be I see you through the woods I hear you breathe my she-ever my child my elder me
Image by Nika Akin from Pixabay
Prior years
Though I need the compost of prior years though it is in fact unavoidable that I must sit in it Though I can draw on intent and toil and turn the mess to eek out the very best nutrients of that time It is compost now it is moulding and mulching now both decomposing and absorbing into the earth taking the painful sting with it So I need to remind myself to stop sticking my head back in to check the top layer the potency knocking me off my feet In due course it will mellow anyway enrich everything anyway melt away anyway all the broken halleujahs all the goodness that doesn't glimmer but is good anyway
Image by Manfred Antranias Zimmer from Pixabay
and in those times
Ever since each of us were small we have encountered the repeated emphasis on the two, or three or even five year plan. Initially this is framed within education, getting through GCSE’s, A-level’s, Higher Education. Thereafter we enter the world of work and are faced with strategies and visions to work towards, all of a similar timeframe.
The greater context however is so much grander than this allows us to see, and if we un-blinker ourselves momentarily and look up, or down even, there is evidence to suggest there are greater forces at work and we live with the conflicting truths that time is of the essence and concurrently, that we have all the time in the world.
The re-wilding of the Caledonian forest have taken the approach to expand and stretch their strategy to a 200 year plan https://news.mongabay.com/2021/06/in-scotland-the-rewilding-movement-looks-to-the-past-to-plan-its-future/, a concept which is entirely captivating.
The BBC series ‘Earth’ tells the narrative of the earths history through geology spanning millions of years, and being naive to much of this story, with those two encounters, life broadens, and the best laid plans become 200 year ones.
And in those times, when they, whose feet tread here, bend with inquisitive eye to dig upon the land, when those knowing hands touch the tender earth which has spun hence round upon itself ten thousand fold, when those eyes, which cannot yet be imagined look up to gaze upon the moon who has adorned and undressed herself before billions, when those toes curl, resisting as they enter the frothing shallows of the sea, sinking into sandy shores washed clean as a million canvases pushed and pulled by forces far beyond our reach, Then, we, looking from a distant somewhere will sigh and this long out-breath will be relief, a great letting go which will be the breeze that tingles down spines, For then, we will be at last at rest we, whose destiny is ancestry we, who felt the earth shift and could not bear to be on watch when she crumbled, we who made two hundred year plans to rebuild, replant, rewild, we who tried, then hoped, then acted, then wished, and wanted and prayed and waited, until in the end we could only watch generation upon generation do it all better, watch ,as great dreams came to pass, watch, as what was planted took root and spread all by itself, protected as it now was having been placed in ever safer sets of hands. Then, finally, on that day, as the sun sets for the trillionth time, it will be setting to mark an end to our endeavours, the world will have saved herself, because given a nudge, half a chance and time, she was destined to heal.
Bull
Orbit
In walking on a summers day we may sometimes spot in the morning, the sun and the moon are both in the sky and that signals some kind of intergalactic balance. If this is coupled with a earworm of recently read words that tumble over as footsteps take us onwards, it may occur to us, that perhaps this a moment to pay attention to. One might try to capture it, record it and later transcribe that recording, to find a home for the earworm, which in this case was the 5 words ‘find a new reference point’.
what if we had a different frame of reference? what if the the reference point was no longer pain? I’ve found whenever I tell my story I always use reference points of pain, they are like the main markers and everything else orbits around those. I wondered what it would be like to start the story from a different point of view. I wonder if you feel the same? I mean I could list off now the things I have always listed but you already know that they’ll be painful, so let’s take that as a given. you will have your own painful things that you could list and have listed. what if, instead of those being front and centre, we started to talk about our lives from the moments of significance that were not pain? that brought light, that were not triggers but glimmers, and then the pain would not disappear, of course it would not, but it would orbit around the things that are more powerful and have stronger energy to them and hold the pain in orbit somewhere. still there, still manifest in our lives but at an appropriate distance, and sure sometimes these things will come into alignment and we will notice and recognise what has healed or faded perhaps. but it won’t be centre stage anymore. we will have found a new reference point and our lives will orbit differently thereafter.